Great read. Would love it if you turned your investigative/curious/writerly eye towards women who look for their father in partners. The prevalence of Daddy issues, though perhaps not as toxic of prevalent is a very real one in my circle.
I am on it. I am finding a lot of the reverse research applies. I always date men like my dad (which is a good thing). I am also starting to understand why some of my friends who have unhealthy relationships with their fathers, choose baddies. It is hard to overcome. More later...
Yeah, and to all those potential dates to be had in the future...
At least in our single-mother, immigrant household, it does not seem that these three archetypes were present or pervading. Maybe I should as my other siblings what they saw/felt?
I would write that I do not know how I was as lucky as I was to have met my wife. While our marriage was not perfect, I wonder if you have done or are planning on doing research on the combinatorial comparisons between mother/son and father/daughter relationships with ongoing partnerships/dating couples/situationships? I imagine there is some matrix that could be designed and discussed.
I think there may be a hazard here of, for me at least, thinking about dating again and dating again. Do you ever find yourself there? Thank you (and your cousin) for nudging those neurons into action.
That's a good idea! I bet I won't find as much research on it but I have yet to look. I also think siblings affect our mate choice. The only toxic relationship I ever had was with a man who was a carbon clone of my problematic younger sister. I also find myself drawn to men who are like my older sister and brother. (My relationship with them is not strained.) And yes, I definitely have dated men who are like my dad. (And that is a good thing.)
Our family plays so much into our mate choice but I don't think we are destined to repeat family scripts. Many rise above them, especially if they are self-aware enough to understand their influence.
Great read. Would love it if you turned your investigative/curious/writerly eye towards women who look for their father in partners. The prevalence of Daddy issues, though perhaps not as toxic of prevalent is a very real one in my circle.
I am on it. I am finding a lot of the reverse research applies. I always date men like my dad (which is a good thing). I am also starting to understand why some of my friends who have unhealthy relationships with their fathers, choose baddies. It is hard to overcome. More later...
Yeah, and to all those potential dates to be had in the future...
At least in our single-mother, immigrant household, it does not seem that these three archetypes were present or pervading. Maybe I should as my other siblings what they saw/felt?
I would write that I do not know how I was as lucky as I was to have met my wife. While our marriage was not perfect, I wonder if you have done or are planning on doing research on the combinatorial comparisons between mother/son and father/daughter relationships with ongoing partnerships/dating couples/situationships? I imagine there is some matrix that could be designed and discussed.
I think there may be a hazard here of, for me at least, thinking about dating again and dating again. Do you ever find yourself there? Thank you (and your cousin) for nudging those neurons into action.
That's a good idea! I bet I won't find as much research on it but I have yet to look. I also think siblings affect our mate choice. The only toxic relationship I ever had was with a man who was a carbon clone of my problematic younger sister. I also find myself drawn to men who are like my older sister and brother. (My relationship with them is not strained.) And yes, I definitely have dated men who are like my dad. (And that is a good thing.)
Our family plays so much into our mate choice but I don't think we are destined to repeat family scripts. Many rise above them, especially if they are self-aware enough to understand their influence.
cousin = curiosity... sorry about the edit error.
Fab. Can’t wait